My husband knows I love fresh flowers. Nearly every week, he fills my crystal vase with flowers. Often he selects roses, but we’ve had many different types. I truly enjoy the various blooms. Last week, I heard our girls discussing the dozen red roses in the vase that sat on top of the kitchen counter. One said “Don’t waste money on flowers, save it for jewelry.” They all seemed to agree on the concept. It’s a sentiment I’ve heard through the years.
If you know Tim, you know he is “thrifty”. He doesn’t buy extravagant bouquets. My weekly flowers come from the selection at the grocery store. They are not expensive, but that doesn’t change their beauty or their meaning to me.
I appreciate good jewelry. My wedding ring is a symbol of the endless, eternal love we share. Tim designed it to represent two broken people coming together to become one. It is precious to me. But, as much as I love the meaning behind this ring, there is so much more to building a lasting, successful marriage. Marriage is all about daily sacrifice. Every day, I commit myself to making my marriage better. Sometimes that means I don’t get what I want. Sometimes that means I step back and put my husband’s needs ahead of my own. Sometimes, we both make sacrifices in the best interest of our family. There are days that aren’t spectacular and in fact there are more ordinary days than extraordinary in this day to day life.
A vase filled with flowers remind me how fragile relationships can be. Flowers are beautiful. If I keep them watered and protected, I will get days and maybe weeks of beauty. Still, they fade. New flowers must be added to the vase to continue to enjoy them. If they are neglected, the water turns green and fungus begins to grow. Before too long, the vase is stained and marred forever from neglect and disuse. Marriages are just as fragile. I have to pay attention and care about the details. I cannot assume that the first days of romance will effortlessly continue. I need to renew my commitment to my marriage, to my romance every day. Just as fresh flowers can refill the vase, fresh attention replenishes a marriage. Are there days when I don’t really want to invest in my relationship? Of course there are. Sometimes, I have the RIGHT to be upset, depressed or angry. But, I cannot allow those moments to turn into days or weeks of selfish indignation. At some point, I have to pull up my big-girl panties and decide what is most important. The world will tell me that I deserve to be happy. The flowers remind me that happiness can be fleeting. But, the joy I find in my marriage, much like the crystal vase that holds and provides for the flowers, will stand strong and ready.
I hope my husband never tires of giving me flowers. For every flower reminds me of our love: past, present and future.